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Communication Is Key

15th March 2018 by Nicholas Conn

Last updated on March 25th, 2022 at 07:19 am

Could a destructive pattern of behaviour such as an addiction cause a breakdown in communication and be killing your relationship?

There are many different ways in which communication can break down, it is also important to note that the addiction which might be the sole problem inhibiting your communication. There may be other attributing factors to communication breakdowns such as: not asking key questions, not listening or empathising, being passive-aggressive, not being frank with one another, or relying heavily on technology to communicate (i.e. misinterpreting the messages because there is no emotion in the email the text).

It sounds like a lot but when the shutters of communication go down, these things can filter very quickly into the dynamics of your relationship.

Addiction can be very lonely and isolating, and when you feel isolated this is when the mistakes will start to mount up.

 

The biggest and worst strategy that is employed by people when facing tension in a relationship is avoidance:

“I don’t want to ask him in case I hurt his feelings.”,

“I don’t want to talk to her about it.”,

“Now’s not the time.” – does this sound familiar?

When these barriers come down, curiosity is not explored, then the relationship will come to a halt. If someone is not willing to talk, this can lead to you or your partner feeling insecure and lacking when it comes to feeling loved.

You have to remember as well as having your own insecurities with regards to your issues, the people who you love the most may feel eliminated due to adverse behaviours such as unpredictability, misplacement of finances, being lied to, and naturally the feeling of avoidance is a good solution; it just moves the issue to one side.

The biggest problem is that this is not addressed, and things are not spoken about and as such problems mountains build.

There is also a difference between being shy and a bad communicator; even though a shy person will appear timid and on occasion, anxious, they can, if they are a good communicator, ask the question they should need to.

 

For a healthy relationship, you need teamwork. Not everyone communicates in the same way, and they do not deal with problems in the same way.

It is important to know what is the best way to talk to each other in a productive way. This may avoid more stressful issues first and try to build some common ground between the two of you before you approach more complex issues and avoid being misunderstood.

Let’s focus on misunderstandings and introduce the concept of a misunderstanding via technology. Take this text for example:

 

“Yes!!” – Now does this, from your interpretation, mean the person is ecstatic, shouting or frustrated with you?

The exclamation mark has to be one of the most abused pieces of punctuation in the world today, as it can communicate so many emotions through texts.

The problem arises, we are unable to process what they mean, as on occasion we cloud the situation with our emotional analysis of the text.

Similarly, one-word answers such as “OK.” and “fine.” fail to communicate any emotion, as they are barriers in their own right. Also remembering that they can be misinterpreted again, as if someone says they are all okay or fine, this could mean the antithesis of that.

This could promote further missing communication and create greater anxiety, as well as fueling existing issues.

 

How can I be a better communicator?

  • Talk face to face where possible.
  • Be frank with one another to show honesty and respect.
  • Ask for an apology if you deserve one, but remember to do the same in return if it is needed.
  • Avoid mind reading – it doesn’t work – tell your partner what you need.
  • Have courtesy and respect for one another: Don’t say or do anything that you would not like said or done to yourself, i.e. using aggressive language.
  • Use ‘I’ statements to give you confidence and make yourself understood: “I feel hurt because…”
  • Stay on topic, don’t bring up every past issue you have had, stick with the issue at hand and if something else does come upset time aside to address that issue.
  • For everything negative thing, you say, try and say a positive thing in return.
  • Try and use humor to diffuse the tension where possible.

Counselling might help you develop these skills or work through an issue on your own, or as a couple, and is a worthwhile investment if you find yourselves stuck in a rut. It can help break restrictions on your communication by boosting confidence and working through past issues.

Remember communication is the key. 

Brian Turner

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About Nicholas Conn

Nicholas Conn is a leading industry addiction expert who runs the UK's largest addiction advisory service and is regularly featured in the national press, radio and TV. He is the founder and CEO of a drug and alcohol rehab center called Help4addiction, which was founded in 2015. He has been clean himself since 2009 and has worked in the Addiction and Rehab Industry for over a decade. Nick is dedicated to helping others recover and get treatment for drug and alcohol abuse. In 2013, he released a book 'The Thin White' line that is available on Amazon.

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