How To Talk With No Noise

How To Talk With No Noise

Mime artists show us amazing stories without uttering a word, they transport us to different worlds, take us through every emotion possible and can leave us with tears of joy and aching sides.


It has come along way from Marcel Marceau and now features in shows like Britain’s Got Talent. At another level sign language allows people who have speech problems to communicate and Justin Fletcher aka Mr Tumble is every child’s hero. This is only a fraction of what I’m talking about. My focus is really about body language and how other people can know a lot about us without asking anything or hearing anything and the problems that can occur when our body language doesn’t match our verbalisations.


That is where people who are living with depression or coping with addiction often have problems dealing with joe public.


A few days ago I was walking through a local town and passed two policemen trying to talk to an obviously disturbed person who was also in the throws of coming off a ‘high’ from whatever cause.


He was asking verbally for help but his body language was pushing them away and aggressive. I would love to be able to say I waded in and sorted it all out but that would have been foolhardy.


Mixed messages and frightening not only for the police but also for the person involved. It was interesting the number of people who crossed over and walked on the other side of the road not wanting to get associated with what was going on.


How many times have you had to explain yourself when people have misread the non-verbal clues. Think about opening presents at Christmas and that parcel that is very obviously, even though you’ve not taken the paper off yet, the very thing you don’t want, but have to pretend to be happy with as it’s Great Aunt Ethel who’s given it to you and under no circumstances can you upset her.


Trying to smile and be jolly but often the eyes portraying your real feelings of not another whatever. If you are already battling depression this can be devastating to try and do and may well result in a dressing down by someone about how you behaved to the present giver. This, in turn, does nothing to alleviate a depressive time, in fact all it does is push you down deeper into what seems an ever-increasing abyss.


Does this mean you should avoid all situations where you may be put under stress or misread? Many people do and then face another of the consequences of depression and/or addiction, that of isolation and loneliness.


This, in turn, doesn’t help as you become out of practice of using body language and it being read correctly, so when in the future situations ask for it, mixed messages follow.


So here is an exercise that will help no matter how you feel when you wake in the day to be able to communicate without uttering a word. All you need is a reflective surface that you can see your face in, a window or a mirror maybe. Later you may need something you can see all of you in.


First, pull lots of faces to wake your face up, this may well mean you end up laughing uncontrollably which in itself makes you feel in a better place.


Next try going through the following list of words and pulling a face, making an expression that evokes them.


At first, you may well think there is no difference in some of them but within each group of three, they are different levels of the same emotion. Why do this? I hear you shout. It’s about getting used to what we can convey with just our face.


Once you’ve tried this you may well like to try adding somebody positioning alongside the facial expressions. Actually, being able to see these and consciously knowing what you are trying to portray you start to understand why perhaps other people sometimes misinterpret what you are actually trying to say especially when body and voice don’t match. It can also mean that you acquire a new skill to cheer yourself up when feeling down or just fill some empty time.


It may actually make your communication skills a lot better.


Annoyance                         Acceptance                        Distraction                          Boredom

Anger                                    Trust                                      Surprise                               Disgust

Rage                                      Admiration                         Amazement                       Loathing


And these opposites


Happy                   Hungry                 Pleased                Proud

Sad                         Full                         Annoyed             Angry


Think about how you feel when using the opposites.

Which ones give you a positive vibe for the day and which don’t?

How will being able to know how to convey how you feel without words be useful to you?


Once you have done some of the above exercises you can go and face the day a little more aware of how just being in society and among people can influence how they react to you.


Go back to the story from earlier about the policemen. You will probably not be surprised to hear that the person concerned got arrested and taken away for disturbing the peace. But the question that runs through my mind is who was really at fault? Was it the person or was it the policemen for not being able to read the situation better and have the skills to really find out what that person needed? Questions we shall probably never have an answer to.


Self-awareness is a useful ability when dealing with a world that is full of non-verbal conversation but deaf to what is going on all around unless someone actually verbalises what they want or need.


Even babies have to cry before some people take any notice although some of us pull faces at them at any given opportunity and think we have had really good conversations.


It is said that 90% of our communication is non-verbal so what you may have thought of as being nothing important takes on a different meaning.



Ruth Hartley

Nick Conn / 12th April 2018/ Posted in: Latest News

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    The goal of a medical detox is to aid in the physical healing required following long term addiction and rid the body of all together of substance whilst providing a cushion for unpleasant symptoms of withdrawals. Detox is not considered the whole treatment for drug/alcohol addiction and it is always recommended that a comprehensive rehabilitation program is used along side to help maintain long term abstinence.

    Medication is often required for alcohol detox. If you are dependent on alcohol and experiencing withdrawal symptoms it is vitally important to seek medical advice prior to stopping. There is a long list of medications used when treating alcohol addiction and the exact medication given to an individual will depend on their needs/medical history. Some of these include;

    • Chlordiazepoxide (Librium)
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    • Diazapam (vailium)

    Librium and Valium are the most commonly used detox medication in the UK. All medication used to help with alcohol detox have been proven to help reduce the effects of withdrawal symptoms.

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    Medication is always required for heroin detox. For someone suffering from heroin addiction, the thought of detoxification (detox) can be exceptionally daunting. Withdrawal symptoms from opiates, such as heroin, can be severe and include pain, vomiting, nausea and shaking.

    There are different ways that heroin detox can be carried out, most usually either ‘maintenance therapy’ or ‘full medical detox’.

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    A full medical detox from heroin will always be carried out in a residential rehab setting and will allow the individual to switch form heroin to a substitute and slowly withdraw completing treatment free of all substances. Someone using a heroin substitute can choose to have a full medical detox at any time, however detoxing substances such a methadone can often add to the length of detox required. Drugs most commonly used to fully detox from heroin are, Subutex, Suboxone and Methadone. Much like alcohol, the exact drugs used will be dependent on the individuals needs/medical history.

    Once detoxed from heroin the risk of overdose is much higher following relapse due to tolerance following withdrawal.

    The length of treatment in a residential rehab depends on a number of elements. Some substances require longer periods of detox than others.

    Private paying patients will also often choose a length of stay that suites their therapeutic and financial needs. As a rule, a full treatment program in a rehab is considered to be 28 days (often referred to as a month), however, treatment is offered in several different ways and lengths starting at 7 days.

    Treating alcohol addiction will always require a minimum of 7-10 days, this would be considered the detoxification (detox) faze. The length required for treating drug addiction can vary drastically depending on the substance being used. Detox for Heroin addiction is generally around 14 days minimum, with more time required if substances such a methadone are being used. Treating prescription drug addiction can often take the longest. The time required for treating gambling addiction, eating disorders and sex addiction will be based on the individuals needs.

    Rehab programs can be as long as an individual requires but primary treatment is normally caped at 12 weeks, with the offering for further secondary and tertiary treatment thereafter.

    *based on average rehab stays, everyone will vary dependant on needs and medical requirement/history.

    There is no need for your employer to know that you are seeking help for trauma and addiction unless you choose to involve them with the process. All employers should have a policy that explains what you do if you cannot come to work due to illness – illness to include treating alcohol addiction/treating drug addiction.

    If your work absence extends over 7 days your employer is likely to require an official statement of fitness to work which would be obtained from your GP. This would need to supply evidence of your illness as well as any adjustments required for returning to work, fazed return or reduced hours, but does not need to specify in detail the reason why you have been absent.

    If you are absent from work for 7 days of less, for example entering rehab for a detoxification (detox) on a Saturday for 7-10 days taking a full week away from work, you can self-certify your illness by letting your employer work you will not be attending work for that period of time. Exactly how an individual would do this would be dependent on a specific companies’ policies on taking sick leave.

    Any time longer than 7 days it is likely an employer will require a note from the individuals GP certifying their sickness and a fit note on return. Most companies have a clearly outlined policy on sickness and receiving sick pay so the exact requirement can vary. A rehab will always be willing to advise on time off work.

    How much does rehab cost is a very frequently asked question. The cost of treatment can range from £1,000 per week upwards depending on the place, with luxury rehab being the most expensive.

    There are free options available on the NHS but the waitlist of those looking for free treatment is longer than that for privately paying patients. Some private health insurance policies will cover treatment in some rehabs around the country.

    Choosing the right rehab centre will often be based on priced but it is important to follow guidance on the most suitable treatment centre for an individual’s needs which our expert team of advisers are on hand to offer.

    There are certainly pro’s for both treatment near by and traveling for treatment with one of the most asked question being should I get rehab near me? There are rehabs all over the UK and around the world that all offer expert programs, let’s look at how to choose a rehab.

    Local treatment

    Being close to home gives certainly has benefits. Visitors are normally permitted in rehab following the first 7 days stay, therefore if an individual is in treatment for a length of time longer than that being local will make it easier for loved ones to visit.

    Most rehab centres will also provide a full aftercare plan for someone following treatment, this will include ongoing aftercare in the specific treatment centre. Living close by can make it easy to take full advantage of ongoing aftercare. There can also often be the option for ongoing care with an individual therapist, again being close by will allow that treatment to be carried out face to face.

    Some individuals wish to be local but are willing to look broader, for instance the greater city of residence (London, Manchester, Liverpool, etc)

    Treatment Away

    Getting treatment away from home can be very appealing to some. Being out of the local area makes it a lot harder to just walk out of treatment as resources locally are unknown. Some also take comfort in knowing that they are not near home and focus more on treatment.

    As the price for treatment can vary so much from one residential treatment centre to another, private paying patients often would rather travel to keep the cost down. Those using private health insurance may also have to travel to find a treatment centre covered in their policy.

    When opting for treatment away from home this can be anywhere in the UK and also abroad. Aftercare can still be carried out and very successful using tools such as The Online Rehab.

    There is no right or wrong when choosing where to go to residential rehab, but our expert advisors are always on hand to help provide information on all possible options.

    Whilst millions of people in the UK have taken recreational drugs (amphetamine, cannabis, cocaine, crack, crystal meth, GHB, heron, ketamine, methadone, and prescription drugs) and drank alcohol not all become ‘addicted’. Most recent reports show that 279,793 individuals were in contact with drug and alcohol misuse services in the last year with over half of that being from opiate addiction and a quarter for alcohol.

    There are several risk factors invoiced in addiction and those using drugs and alcohol socially, simply take the risk. These risks are as follows;

    Tolerance – basically, if a substance is used repeatedly an individual’s tolerance to it will build. This will result in more of the same substance being required to get the same effect. In the long run this can easily lead to addiction and physical dependencies.

    Environmental risks – these can include influences such a peer pressure and stress as well as physical or mental abuse of an individual (particularly as a child). Overall, those who live with frequent pressures and stress are more likely to reach for a substance to cope and are therefore at higher risk of becoming addicted.

    Drug type – it is very well known that certain drugs are simply more addictive than others. Using substances such as heroin increases the risk of becoming addicted for need to ‘chase’ a high as well as physical dependency.

    Drug administration – how a drug is administered can affect its addictive qualities. A drug injected rather than smoked or snorted will release a quicker and more intense high thus making it psychologically (and in many cases physically) more addictive.

    Biological factors – it is now widely reported that being an addict is not only psychological but also biological. This includes your genetic makeup, mental health, sex and age. It is also reported to be 8 times more likely for the child of an addict to become an addict themselves.

    Its believed that addiction is approximately half genetics and therefore some are 50% more likely to become addicted than others.

    How do you help a loved one trapped in addiction?

    The first step is to help and encourage the individual to become willing to accept help. They do not need to be shouting this off the rooftops, but they do need to be willing to go into treatment. There are ways to help someone become willing to get treatment for alcohol or treatment for drugs.

    Set boundaries – set boundaries and stick to them. Once you have laid them out follow through with whatever consequences you have set however hard it is.

    Stop finances – if you are financially supporting someone stopping these finances can be the quickest way for the addict needing to ask for help. With no money to acquire a substance an addict’s options become very limited.

    Intervention – getting together with other family members/friends/colleagues and staging an intervention is often very successful in the fist stage of acceptance and gaining an admission to residential rehab.

    You can’t make them quit, this can lead to dangerous withdrawal. Boundaries are very important in helping someone become willing to get help. Unfortunately you cannot do someone’s recovery for them and without self-motivation it is very hard to make it work.

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